Welcome to September, Cancer. You’re bound to feel quite grounded this month as the Sun travels through the practical Earth sign of Virgo and lights up your communication sector. You’ll feel ready to express exactly what you want and don’t want to your sexual partners, but the one thing you need to be careful of during Virgo Season is your tendency to be too self-critical or focused on what people have to improve (include yourself). Yes, it’s often beneficial to strive to improve your sex life and to let people know how they can better please you, but make sure you do so in a way that doesn’t rub people the wrong way or make them think that you’re nagging or never satisfied. Since you tend to be a bit passive-aggressive in your sexual approach, resist the urge to teach people a lesson by withdrawing into your shell and denying them sexual interactions simply because they don’t seem to get where you’re coming from. Use your words wisely, Cancer, and people will adapt to your needs. It’s as simple as that.
Luckily, the Virgo New Moon on September 9 will help you set new intentions about how you want your sex life to go these next six months. You are ruled by the Moon, Cancer, so New Moons are perfect times for recreating your reality. Take time to think about what’s been satisfying you in the sheets, and where you’ve felt a bit bored or uninspired. Make sure to not point the blame on anyone, but instead be solution-oriented (with the help of the Virgo Sun) and think about what you can do to amp up your sex life. You may have a major breakthrough when talking to your partner about what’s been missing in your sex life. Do so by first creating an ideal environment for this heart-to-heart. Light some candles, have some snacks and wine nearby, play some intimate music… Try not to bombard them with lists of what they need to improve, but make it an open, two-way conversation where you both can laugh about any insecurities that come up and encourage each other to go the extra mile. Once you’re satisfied, celebrate with amazing rounds of sex where you practice what you preach and get freaky in the sheets.
On September 22, the Sun shifts out of Virgo and into Libra, lighting up your domestic sector for the next four weeks. The last 8 days of the month you may be more of a homebody than usual, but that’s actually where you feel most at ease when it comes to having sex. You may text your partner to, “come over”, and when they do you’ll indulge in sensual seduction and non-stop love-making. The Libra energy will make you more flirtatious and open to switching up your usual routine with your partner. You may also be in the mood to talk about some sexual fantasies that you’ve been having for a while, and to try them out. Mars, the Planet of Action, will be in Aquarius by then, and this will make you more prone to trying out unusual sexual positions and having unconventional discussions about sex and intimacy with your partner. While you definitely have a traditional aspect to your nature, this month you may surprise your partner by indulging in some sexual adventures that are usually seen as taboo or out of the norm.
On September 25, as the month begins to wind down, Chiron, the asteroid that represents our inner wounds, will retrograde into the sign of Pisces, and you may find yourself having a blast from the past entering your life. Sex with an ex, anyone? Be kind and compassionate to yourself during the last few days of the month, especially since Pluto, the Planet of Sex and Transformation, will end its retrograde on September 30 and amplify some hidden emotions that are coming to the surface of your life. Pluto will be direct in your partnership sector, so if you’ve been dealing with feelings for someone that you haven’t admitted (to yourself or to them), they may become undeniable around month’s end and you’ll have to find a way to let them out. Even if you don’t directly tell the source, journal about it, talk to a trusted friend, write a song or poem, or masturbate and think about them making love to you. Your sexual urges will be urgently strong at the end of the month, so it’s best to give into them one way or another.